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22 December 2023
Dear Franklin,
You may remember me, because I wrote you last year about my long-distance relationship. I followed your advice and had three torrid flings over the summer. It was marvelous, by the way. Thank you so much for giving me the courage to free myself. I now must seek your advice again. For the last six months I\'ve been meeting this guy to play chess once a week. He\'s around my age, really nice, friendly, funny, and cute-- all the things I\'ve been looking for. So I asked him out two weeks ago, and we had a lovely movie and ice cream date. Though he seemed interested in me, he was a gentleman, and there was no kissing or any touching beyond the merest brush of fingers. He\'s agreed to another movie date next week, so I don\'t think I repulse him. But sometimes he is such a gentleman and so nice that I don\'t know if he\'ll make a move or not. I find myself daydreaming about him shagging me into the floor, and we haven\'t even kissed yet! What should I do? I\'ve already asked him out twice, so should I wait for him to make the next move, or should I jump him the next time we\'re in a darkened theater?
Kiss-less in Columbus,
- Brynhild Jones
Brynhild,
I am glad you learned something about yourself last summer; just remember you should never stop learning. So your beau-to-be is acting like your bro, huh? I see. Let’s examine all possibilities.
1. Perhaps he’s married/attached or maybe just getting over a difficult breakup. None of these circumstances are good-- at least not for you-- and would lead me to advise you to back off.
2. Maybe he is only looking for a friend, or maybe he isn’t even straight. You should make your feelings clear so, if there is a misunderstanding, it can be straightened out before anyone is hurt.
3. Maybe he is just a little shy or you are moving too fast. I mean, you’ve only been on one date. It wasn’t too long ago that one was considered \"cheap\" or \"easy\" for putting out on the second date. It was recently reported that a couple in Germany had gone to the doctor because they were concerned they had not yet gotten pregnant after years of marriage. It turned out that they hadn’t even been having sex, let alone knowing what sexual intimacy was all about. So slow down, be patient, communicate your feelings, and maybe things will work out for you. Good luck, Brynhild.
Dear Franklin,
A few months ago I met this really hot woman and have been meeting her once a week to play chess. Well, last week she asked me out. Biting my tongue was all I could do to keep my hands off of her. She asked me out again, and I don’t think I will be able to control myself. There’s just one small problem. About nine years ago, I discovered that my inner being was, in fact, a man and not the woman I had been born as. Since that day, I have been dressing and acting as though I were a man. I know there is a whole community of people like myself, but I still really haven’t come out to my family or friends, and am afraid of being shunned by them. But that is neither here nor there, as I am supposed to meet this beautiful woman on Friday for a movie and some ice cream. She has already made a few comments that led me to believe she could never love another woman, so I don’t know what to do. She told me that she had asked you for advice before, and that you were helpful. I hope you can help me, too.
Confused in Columbus,
- Susan \"Steve\" Mann
Susan \"Steve\",
What are the odds of this happening? You know, my new advice to everyone is to throw their TVs out the window right now because, as far as I can see it, there is way too much drama in the world. How do you people keep all of your lies and deceits straight?!? What with all of your affairs and heterosexual/transsexual encounters? Look, Susan, you are not helping anyone by parading around as a man. Well, maybe you are helping yourself, which would be great if you weren’t leading other people on. You know what? I really don’t have any advice; I’m just all tuckered out right now. How about you just go out and buy a nice strap-on dildo until I can figure out how you should approach the situation?
HAVING PROBLEMS WITH MATTERS OF YOUR HEART? EMAIL FRANKLIN HERE FOR ALL THE ANSWERS.
You may remember me, because I wrote you last year about my long-distance relationship. I followed your advice and had three torrid flings over the summer. It was marvelous, by the way. Thank you so much for giving me the courage to free myself. I now must seek your advice again. For the last six months I\'ve been meeting this guy to play chess once a week. He\'s around my age, really nice, friendly, funny, and cute-- all the things I\'ve been looking for. So I asked him out two weeks ago, and we had a lovely movie and ice cream date. Though he seemed interested in me, he was a gentleman, and there was no kissing or any touching beyond the merest brush of fingers. He\'s agreed to another movie date next week, so I don\'t think I repulse him. But sometimes he is such a gentleman and so nice that I don\'t know if he\'ll make a move or not. I find myself daydreaming about him shagging me into the floor, and we haven\'t even kissed yet! What should I do? I\'ve already asked him out twice, so should I wait for him to make the next move, or should I jump him the next time we\'re in a darkened theater?
Kiss-less in Columbus,
- Brynhild Jones
Brynhild,
I am glad you learned something about yourself last summer; just remember you should never stop learning. So your beau-to-be is acting like your bro, huh? I see. Let’s examine all possibilities.
1. Perhaps he’s married/attached or maybe just getting over a difficult breakup. None of these circumstances are good-- at least not for you-- and would lead me to advise you to back off.
2. Maybe he is only looking for a friend, or maybe he isn’t even straight. You should make your feelings clear so, if there is a misunderstanding, it can be straightened out before anyone is hurt.
3. Maybe he is just a little shy or you are moving too fast. I mean, you’ve only been on one date. It wasn’t too long ago that one was considered \"cheap\" or \"easy\" for putting out on the second date. It was recently reported that a couple in Germany had gone to the doctor because they were concerned they had not yet gotten pregnant after years of marriage. It turned out that they hadn’t even been having sex, let alone knowing what sexual intimacy was all about. So slow down, be patient, communicate your feelings, and maybe things will work out for you. Good luck, Brynhild.
Dear Franklin,
A few months ago I met this really hot woman and have been meeting her once a week to play chess. Well, last week she asked me out. Biting my tongue was all I could do to keep my hands off of her. She asked me out again, and I don’t think I will be able to control myself. There’s just one small problem. About nine years ago, I discovered that my inner being was, in fact, a man and not the woman I had been born as. Since that day, I have been dressing and acting as though I were a man. I know there is a whole community of people like myself, but I still really haven’t come out to my family or friends, and am afraid of being shunned by them. But that is neither here nor there, as I am supposed to meet this beautiful woman on Friday for a movie and some ice cream. She has already made a few comments that led me to believe she could never love another woman, so I don’t know what to do. She told me that she had asked you for advice before, and that you were helpful. I hope you can help me, too.
Confused in Columbus,
- Susan \"Steve\" Mann
Susan \"Steve\",
What are the odds of this happening? You know, my new advice to everyone is to throw their TVs out the window right now because, as far as I can see it, there is way too much drama in the world. How do you people keep all of your lies and deceits straight?!? What with all of your affairs and heterosexual/transsexual encounters? Look, Susan, you are not helping anyone by parading around as a man. Well, maybe you are helping yourself, which would be great if you weren’t leading other people on. You know what? I really don’t have any advice; I’m just all tuckered out right now. How about you just go out and buy a nice strap-on dildo until I can figure out how you should approach the situation?
HAVING PROBLEMS WITH MATTERS OF YOUR HEART? EMAIL FRANKLIN HERE FOR ALL THE ANSWERS.
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