Watch your back in Raleigh, I mean I am watching your back in Raleigh so you\'d better do it!
- You Nightmare
Dear You,
Glad to see you like the column enough to participate, but I think you might have me confused with someone else.
See, for starters, I only just started dating a woman in Raleigh. She clearly told me before our first date that she had just ended things with an incredibly violent man. My girl was \"single\" when I met her, so again, you must have me confused with some other fellow who is pleasuring your lady.
Secondly, since when did it become an insult to call someone a \"cottin gin\"? As far as I can tell, that invention, although stolen from the British, dramatically improved both agriculture and industry in the South. Since when did helping people become so wrong?
Dear Franklin,
I am a 37-year-old man who has been mundanely married for the last 14 years. We have never had children and I have never cheated on my wife.
A couple of years into our marriage, I began to lose interest in my wife sexually. We still occasionally mess around, but we both know I would rather be doing something else. She has asked me to try and explain my feelings, and I must admit she has been very understanding, but I am just not able to verbalize my lack of interest.
For the longest time I couldn\'t explain it myself, until last month when I stopped to talk to a construction worker down the street from my office. It started innocently enough, with him screaming at me to get out of the way as an I-beam came tumbling down to the street from the fourth floor. But I couldn\'t help but notice his masculine posture, and the way his t-shirt hung from his glistening chest.
I told him, \"Thanks for saving my life,\" and he responded by saying, \"No problem.\" I couldn\'t help but think that he thought of me as more than just another guy he prevented from being crushed by 1,200 pounds of steel, but that he had a romantic interest in me. I have never found myself attracted to men, but for the last month, I haven\'t been able to stop thinking about him. Should I pursue him? Should I tell my wife? What should I do?
Awestruck in Atlanta,
- Scott Blevins
Scott, my first instinct is to tell you that the reason you have been thinking of this man so much is because you are secretly jealous of his job. Is it true that you long to feel that you have actually accomplished something at the end of the day other than pushing a pencil? Do you ache to be crowned by the glory of the sun all day long? If the answer is \"yes\", then change jobs, and maybe the luster will return to your marriage.
In case you are hesitating about my answer, I will forward your letter to a good friend of mine. He has an extensive religious background and may be able to help you sort out your moral decisions. Let me warn you that last I heard, John Paul wasn\'t feeling well, so his reply might take awhile. Just hold out on making any decisions until we hear back from him.
HAVING PROBLEMS WITH MATTERS OF YOUR HEART? EMAIL FRANKLIN HERE FOR ALL THE ANSWERS.